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Tips and actionable items to help you manage your mindset and achieve your goals so that you have success in all areas of your life.  You deserve it and I am here cheering you on!!!

Stop Disqualifying the Positive: 7 Steps to Help you From Falling into This Thought Distortion

May 04, 2022

Do you tend to see and focus on the negative aspects of a situation? “Disqualifying the positive” is what is referred to as a thought distortion, or a cognitive distortion. What this means is that your brain observes a situation and filters in the negative aspects of the situation and ignores, or discounts any of the positive aspects of the situation. If you are someone who experiences this, you are not alone. Our brains have what is called a “negativity bias” which causes them to highlight the negative things around us, while bypassing positive things. 

The reason it does this is because, typically when you are experiencing negative things, you also experience negative emotions. This can raise an alarm with your brain because with negative emotions comes discomfort. Your brain does not want you to experience this discomfort, and it thinks that if it continues to focus on the negative thing that somehow it can prevent it from happening again and...

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Addressing Thought Distortions Part 2: Fortune Telling, Black and White Thinking, and “Should” Statements

Mar 16, 2021

Thought distortions, also referred to as “thinking traps”, “cognitive distortions”, and “stinkin’ thinkin’”, are faulty ways of thinking that hold us back, cause us to experience negative emotions, and/or impact our self-esteem and overall confidence. There are many different forms of thought distortions which is why I am writing a series of blog article about them. You can check out Part #1 on the Live Your Best Boss Lady Life Blog HERE, which focuses on Filtering, Overgeneralizations, and Personalization. What is helpful is to understand them, to take the time to notice if your fall into any of these thinking patterns, and then to start to challenge them. If you do notice that you fall into some of these patterns, there is no shame. Most of us do at least some of the time, however, by reading this you will start to be able to recognize the problematic patterns and begin to shift them.

 

In this article, I will review three...

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Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Stress Level.

Oct 28, 2020

On a scale from 1 to 10 (with 1 being none and 10 being explosive), where would you rate your stress level right now? Having a high stress level ongoing is toxic for your mind and body. High stress levels can cause people to overeat, to overdrink, to have difficulty focusing, to make poor decisions, to have difficulty sleeping, and can increase people’s risk for heart and other health problems.

 

I believe there are two ways of reducing stress levels. One is a quicker fix, but not a permanent fix. The second is more of a long-term fix. I will share them both and if you are someone who experiences high levels of stress ongoing, I would encourage you to try them both.

 

Quicker fixes for managing stress.

The following suggestions are things you can do when you are experiencing stress. Engaging in these activities will help calm your system down or help you release tension or help distract you from your thoughts that are causing you to feel stress. These are all great...

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