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One of the biggest ways women hold themselves back is by overthinking. We spend so much time imagining all the ways something might go wrong that we never actually give ourselves the chance to see if it could work out. Sound familiar? If so, you are not alone. I see this every day with clients who are smart, capable, and full of potential, yet stuck in the endless cycle of “what ifs” and “maybes.”

Here is the truth. You do not need to have it all figured out to take the first step. You do not need every detail perfectly lined up. You do not need the Universe to send you a flashing sign telling you the timing is right. The belief that everything must be perfect before you move forward is one of the biggest lies you can tell yourself. Waiting for perfection is simply procrastination wearing a disguise.

How Overthinking Holds You Back

Instead of obsessing over what could go wrong, shift your mindset and ask yourself one simple question: What is the next best choice I can make to move...

Let’s be real for a minute. You’re juggling a million things…work deadlines, family responsibilities, laundry that seems to multiply in the dark, and the endless cycle of errands that never ends. And while you’re out there taking care of everyone and everything else, you continue to slide to the bottom of your to-do list.

I hear this all the time from the women I coach: “I’ll start working on my goals once things calm down.” or "I'll have more time next week, next month, or next year.” But here’s the truth, you and I both know that life isn’t going to magically “calm down.” There will always be more to do, more people to help, and more fires to put out. If you keep waiting for the “perfect time,” you’ll be waiting forever and I definitely don’t want that for you.

So let me ask you this: What would it feel like if you actually started putting yourself back on the list…not at the bottom, not as an afterthought, but right at the top? What if you gave yourself the same energy, attentio...

Where I live, the nights are starting to feel cooler, the days shorter, and the seasons are shifting. Maybe you notice it too, those subtle reminders that change is always happening. It made me think about how quickly we adjust our external temperature while often ignoring our internal one.

Most of us keep our external comfort level steady year-round. If it gets too cold, we turn up the heat. If it gets too hot, we switch on the AC. We do whatever we can to stay in that comfortable range. But what about our internal thermostat?

Your internal thermostat is your personal comfort zone. It is made of the thoughts, habits, and behaviors you fall back on when life feels uncertain. It is the place where you feel safe and normal, even if it is not serving your growth. If you do not recognize yours, it might be silently holding you back.

How Your Comfort Zone Holds You Back

Imagine someone who works hard, earns a promotion, and finally lands the role they dreamed of. On paper, it is a win...

Persistence is the quality of consistently pursuing a goal or task despite obstacles, difficulties, boredom, or setbacks. It involves determination, resilience, and a strong commitment to achieving a desired outcome, even when there is discomfort. Persistence is often seen as a key factor in overcoming challenges and achieving long-term success in various areas of life, including personal, academic, professional, and creative pursuits.

There are some key characteristics that persistent individuals possess.

What is important to note is that these characteristics are not fixed or innate. They can be developed and strengthened with some focus and attention. As you read through them, I encourage you to identify one or two that you can work to strengthen as a means of strengthening your overall persistence when you are pursuing your goals.

Resilience: Persistent individuals are able to bounce back from failures, setbacks, and disappointments. They view obstacles as temporary ch...

Have you ever heard the phrase, “I’ll believe it when I see it”? If you use this phrase it means you are skeptical of something. You are not sure it will happen so you sit back and wait for evidence to appear that will help you believe it. While this may be a good way of thinking if someone has made empty promises to you in the past so that you don’t get your hopes up, in general, this is not a good way of thinking when you are talking about your goals or what you want in your future. When thinking about these things, you should flip this phrase upside down and tell yourself, “I’ll see it when I believe it”.

Visualization, also known as mental imagery, can be a powerful tool for achieving success in all areas of your life. Whether you have personal, professional, or academic goals, creating a mental image of achieving your desired outcome and imagining yourself performing the steps that will get you there will help pull you forward towards your goal. 

When you visualize your succe...

If you are like most people, you are interested in a lot of different things, but that does not necessarily mean you are committed to them. Maybe you want to consider a new career, starting a business, starting a new hobby, finding romance, improving your finances, organizing our home, or taking your health and fitness to the next level. When you are interested in something, you spend time thinking about it. This may generate feelings of excitement, curiosity, and maybe even a little fear or overwhelm.

Dreaming is one of my favorite things to do. For me, it creates feelings of excitement and energizes me. I can dream all day long, however, dreaming alone won’t get me anywhere. This is where commitment comes in. While being interested in something or dreaming about something requires thinking, commitment requires action. If you are truly committed to something, you will continue to pursue it, even when it gets hard, boring, frustrating, or inconvenient. If you are committed you are ...

If you are reading this, you are likely someone with goals who wants to improve their life in some way. One thing I’ve noticed with goals is that many people spend a lot of time thinking about them, dreaming about them, and mapping them out…and then never achieve them. Believe me, I have been there many times my friend. Why is this a common experience for so many of us?

It is because dreaming and doing are two very different experiences. Thinking about your goals and what you want in your future is exciting, energizing, and can bring about a lot of hope surrounding what is possible. These are all feelings you want to experience, and therefore thinking about your goals is reinforced by the positive feelings you experience when you do this. On the other hand, doing what it takes to achieve your goals, especially if they will stretch you or challenge you, can be uncomfortable and create feelings of uncertainty. While pushing yourself to achieve your goals, you may question yourself, e...

Why is it that some people keep going and keep working towards their goal, even when things are challenging, and others give up? Many people attribute this to motivation which does play a role, however, as a motivation expert, I can tell you that motivation alone won’t cut it. Motivation is defined as, “the general desire or willingness of someone to do something”. Being really clear about “why” you want to achieve something is tied to motivation, however, when you are working towards a goal and things get challenging, it can be very easy for motivation to decrease. Your desire to keep going is challenged when things get uncomfortable because it is human nature to want to stay in your comfort zone. 

Drive, on the other hand, is easier to sustain and can help you power through when things get hard. The definition of drive is, “an innate, biologically determined urge to attain a goal or satisfy a need”. While motivation taps into your “why” for doing something, drive taps into an even...

Do you have a “not to do” list? If you don’t, you should consider it! A “not to do" list is a list of things you are trying not to do at all, or not to do at certain times of your day / week, so that you are freed up to focus on other things. We all live in a world where there is a finite amount of time yet it seems like some people are higher achievers, get more done, or seem to have more time for fun and relaxation. Why is that when we all have the same twenty-four hours in our day?

I don’t believe that everyone who seems to be getting the results they want in their life is grinding it out each day, not sleeping, or that they have superhuman powers. I believe the reason is that they have clarity and prioritize what they want to get out of each day, week, month, and year. They are saying “yes” to the things they want more of in their lives and saying “no” to the things that don’t move them towards what they truly want. If this is true, the first thing you need to do is to ask yours...

Do you ever find that you keep moving things on your “to do” list from one day to the next? From one week to the next? From one month to the next? How about from one year to the next? I can relate to this. I like lists and I like crossing things off lists, however, I recently realized that I was carrying over more things from one list to the next instead of crossing them off. When I looked into this further, I realized that two things were happening. First, the items on the list that were just for me, and did not involve others, were the items getting bumped. Second, I realized that of the items just for me that were getting bumped, they were the hard things, the boring things, or the things I not confident would turn out exactly as I wanted them to.

The tasks that involved me getting something done for someone else, showing up for someone else, or involved someone else in any way were getting done. It was the things that were just for me, about me, or that did not directly impact ...