Too often I see clients holding themselves back because of their past. Whether it is because of messages they received about themselves from others, past failures, how they grew up, or what things have happened in their lives, I have seen too many people restricting their future based on their past.
Let me explain this further. Your brain wants you to stay safe and comfortable. Because of this, it will try to keep you where you are, rather than pushing you to try new things or pushing you outside the bounds of where you currently are. It will restrict you from seeing that there are possibilities beyond those that you have already seen or experienced and it will remind you of past failures and past messages you heard or created about yourself that tell you that certain things are for “other people” but not for you. It is not your fault that your brain does this, it is the way all of us are wired.
Just because you are wired this way, however, does not mean that this is the way you need to be wired ongoing. I think there is value in looking to your past to remind yourself of things you have learned, and even more value in looking to the past to remind you of how far you have come. However, there is not value in looking to your past to remind yourself of why you are not worthy or capable of things that you do not presently have or do. If you allow your mind to do this, it will, and you will likely miss out on opportunities, experiences, or achievements you could otherwise have.
For this reason, you can’t allow your past to be the predictor of your future. You can’t allow your beliefs to go unchecked and assume that they are facts. If you think you may be allowing your past to hold you back from what is possible in your future, there are some things that you can do to make sure you are being intentional about creating the future you want.
To help you examine your beliefs and uncover whether you are using evidence from your past to predict your future, consider the following questions. With these questions, we will start from the finish line and work our way backwards. If you want to get the most out of this activity, get my free guide, “Don’t allow your past to predict your future” by clicking here. This guide will take you deeper into this process with additional prompts so that you can challenge yourself and break through from any beliefs that are holding you back.
Nobody else is going to do this for you so it is 100% on you. You’ve got this and you deserve this! Did you get the 12 page guide that will help you dive in even deeper? You can get it HERE!
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Karen Vincent Solutions