Why is it that some people are optimistic and assume things will work out or turn out well, while other people are mostly pessimistic and focus on all the possible negative outcomes? It has to do with how our brains are wired. Based on human nature, we are wired to focus more on the negative things. That is because they typically bring about “negative” emotions and human nature is to want to avoid these negative emotions. Because of this, our primitive brains think that if they keep us focusing on past negative things, or potential negative things, then we can somehow protect ourselves from them, however, as you and I both know…this often just leaves us feeling bad anticipating negative things that will likely never happen
People who are optimistic choose to be that way. It may be easier for them because they have some real-life experiences that have gone well for them which help them consider more positive things happening in the future, however, they are choosing to direct their attention towards the positive things and away from the negative things that could happen. These are not individuals who don’t live in reality, but rather people who choose not to worry about negative things that “might” happen in the future, until they actually happen.
The thoughts you carry around most in your brain, will attract other similar thoughts. So, if you have thoughts that are positive, hopeful, and/or optimistic, you will have more of those types of thoughts. Your positive, hopeful, and optimistic thoughts will generate “positive” emotions, that will influence actions you take in your life, which will impact the results you get in your life. This is why optimistic and positive people often experience more happiness, success, and life fulfillment.
On the other hand, if you have thoughts that are negative, doubtful, and pessimistic, you will have more of those types of thoughts. Your negative thoughts generate “negative” emotions, which influence actions you take in your life, which will impact the results you get in your life. This is why pessimistic and negative people often experience more sadness, anger, frustration, and challenges in their lives.
If you would like to be more positive and optimistic, you are completely in control of that. The way you think is something that you learned and has been conditioned over time. That means you can unlearn it and condition a new way of thinking. The key is that you have to decide this is what you want, and then make the commitment, of a little bit of time each week, to create or reinforce the neural pathways that will result in more positivity and optimism. This will also result in less activity in the neural pathways that support negativity and pessimism, which will, over time, change your default thinking pattern. The key to this process is consistency and repetition. Your brain will do what you tell it to do repeatedly. Practice the 5 steps below daily to create a more optimistic outlook and increased positive emotions.
5 steps to creating a more optimistic outlook and increased positive emotions.
As I mentioned, consistency and repetition are what will make the difference for you. None of these steps take a long time, but they can have a major impact when done on a regular basis. When you are positive and feeling good, you attract different things into your life that are in alignment with your positive outlook. If you are looking for more strategies and resources to help you manage your mind, join my community, and receive my weekly newsletter HERE.
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